HONOLULU (KHON2) — The life of military family is wrought with dichotomies, joy and sadness, pride and sorrow, stability and instability. There are 28,266 “active-duty children” and 8,711 National Guard and reserve children in Hawaii, according to the Military State Policy Source.
These kids, affectionately referred to as “military brats,” often face unique challenges due to their parents’ service.
This day recognizes their resilience, sacrifices and contributions to their families and communities; and it’s a time to appreciate their strength and flexibility in the face of the demands of military life.
But keep in mind that these numbers do not represent the children who have grown up to be adults who were former military brats. There is no statistical information on how many adult military brats continue to reside in Hawaii.
So, when National Military Brats Day rolls around on April 30, it’s a day to consider the difficulties that come with being the child of a service member but also the benefits.
This led KHON2.com to explore these issues and look at some ways you can celebrate the military brat in your life.
Military brats can face various mental health challenges due to the unique circumstances of military life. Some common issues they may encounter include:
Frequent relocations: Constant moves can lead to feelings of instability, difficulty forming long-term friendships and a sense of disconnectedness from their peers.
Parental deployments: Separation from a parent during deployments can cause anxiety, fear and sadness, as well as concerns about their parent’s safety.
Adjustment difficulties: Adapting to new schools, communities and cultures can be stressful and overwhelming, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Trauma exposure: Military brats may be exposed to traumatic events, such as combat-related injuries or deaths, which can have a significant impact on their mental well-being.
Family stressors: Military life can put strain on family dynamics, leading to conflict, instability and feelings of insecurity among children.
Identity issues: Military brats may struggle with their sense of identity and belonging, especially if they have lived in multiple locations and experienced diverse cultures.
Educational challenges: Frequent moves can disrupt academic progress and lead to gaps in learning, which may contribute to feelings of frustration and inadequacy.
Emotional resilience: Despite these challenges, many military brats develop resilience and coping skills that can serve them well in adulthood. However, it’s essential to provide them with the support and resources they need to navigate the unique stressors of military life.
Being a military brat comes with its own set of challenges, but there are also several benefits and unique experiences that can positively shape their lives:
Cultural diversity: Military brats often grow up in diverse environments, exposed to different cultures, languages and customs as they move from one location to another. This exposure fosters open-mindedness, tolerance and appreciation for diversity.
Resilience: Constantly adapting to new situations, making new friends and facing challenges can cultivate resilience and adaptability in military brats. They learn to cope with change and uncertainty, which are valuable life skills.
Global perspective: Living in various countries or regions exposes military brats to different ways of life, worldviews and global issues. This broad perspective can enrich their understanding of the world and their place in it.
Strong community bonds: Military families often form tight-knit communities, providing a sense of belonging and support wherever they go. Military brats develop strong bonds with other children in similar situations, creating lifelong friendships and support networks.
Patriotism and service: Growing up in a military family can instill a sense of pride, patriotism and commitment to service. Military brats witness firsthand the sacrifices and dedication of their parents and may feel inspired to contribute to their communities or country in their own way.
Adventurous spirit: The transient nature of military life encourages exploration and adventure. Military brats often embrace new experiences, whether it’s trying new foods, participating in cultural celebrations or exploring historical sites in different regions.
Strong work ethic: Military families often emphasize discipline, responsibility and hard work, values that are instilled in military brats from a young age. These qualities can contribute to their success in academic, professional and personal endeavors.
Life skills: From a young age, military brats learn practical life skills such as resilience, independence and problem-solving. They often become self-reliant and adaptable, which can serve them well in various aspects of life.
While military life presents its own set of challenges, many military brats look back on their experiences with fondness and gratitude for the unique opportunities and perspectives it afforded them.
Military brats can celebrate National Military Brats Day in various meaningful ways to honor their experiences and contributions. Here are some ideas:
Connect with other military brats: Reach out to fellow military brats, whether it’s through social media, online forums or local community groups. Share stories, memories and experiences with others who understand the unique challenges and joys of military life.
Reflect on experiences: Take some time to reflect on the positive aspects of growing up in a military family. Think about the places you’ve lived, the friends you’ve made and the lessons you’ve learned along the way. Consider journaling or creating a scrapbook to document your memories.
Thank your parents: Express gratitude to your parents or family members who have served in the military for their sacrifices and dedication. Write them a heartfelt note, spend quality time together or plan a special activity to show your appreciation.
Support military families: Show support for military families in your community by volunteering, donating to organizations that assist military personnel and their families or participating in events that raise awareness about the challenges they face.
Celebrate your heritage: Embrace your unique cultural heritage and the diversity of experiences that come with being a military brat. Cook traditional dishes from places you’ve lived, listen to music from different cultures or learn about the history and customs of your family’s military branch.
Educate others: Raise awareness about the experiences of military brats by sharing your story with friends, classmates or colleagues. Take this opportunity to dispel misconceptions and promote understanding and appreciation for military families.
Engage in self-care: Take care of yourself on National Military Brats Day by engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it’s spending time outdoors, practicing mindfulness or indulging in your favorite hobbies, prioritize self-care and well-being.
Express pride: Wear clothing or accessories that symbolize your connection to the military, such as a military branch logo or colors. Display a flag or other patriotic symbols to show pride in your family’s service and your own identity as a military brat.
Share your story: Use social media or other platforms to share your experiences as a military brat and connect with others who can relate. Your story may inspire and resonate with fellow military brats and help raise awareness about the unique challenges they face.
Celebrate with family: Spend time with your family celebrating National Military Brats Day. Plan a special meal, watch a military-themed movie or participate in activities that honor your family’s military heritage and the bonds that unite you.
So, for all those people who have become friends with or have developed relationships with these special people, then take this time to appreciate the diverse life that make them who they are.